Suggestions for Parents/Carers
Teachers, parents and pupils are always making changes to the way that we work together. Our contacts are constantly evolving.
We hope that this school page can provide a hub for both advice and to locate useful websites for Parents and young people during the present arrangements.
Our aim is to post information that will be useful to both parents and our pupils.
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From a young person's view
Different children react to change in different ways. It is important that adults listen to their child’s concerns and discuss these concerns with them. Working out solutions together is best. School is available to give advice too.
From a parent's view point
Keep your home life as normal as possible, although clearly many aspects will have already changed. In addition try to involve members of the family in planning discussions as this helps youngsters to understand their role in supporting their family.
Below are some general suggestions that you may find useful
Team talk - help your youngster to think of your family as a team. It is important for you as a parent, to make it clear that your family will be spending lots of time together and that adjustments to family life will need to happen. Your child needs to know that you are there to listen and discuss solutions and that you will always make decisions with their best interests in mind.
All children need a strong reference point in their home, especially when change is happening around them. This will help your child to feel secure. In addition, each family member will have their individual role to play, to ensure that your family work as a ‘Team’. Routines greatly assist the smooth running of family life and in these circumstances, they are particularly essential to create a happy home and avoid some of the stress points; after all no one wants the kitchen being used as a take-away- 24/7! It is important that each family finds their own solutions rather than have needless arguments eg regarding meal times.
Situations will arise as folks adjust to these changes to family life. We have all been teenagers! It is essential that Parents stay calm, as two ‘upset’ people will make solutions more difficult to resolve. Time out will be useful for all.
Resume the conversation later, when you are both calm and ready to listen to each other. It is really important to refer back to the idea of the ‘Team’
What are the routines that each family member are expected to follow; Involve your kids in these making plans which will be essential to make your family life as calm and predictable as possible.(Meal times, chores, school work, leisure time)
This will help to give each day a sense of normality.
You make the plan for your family, as each situation is different; we have suggested some items that could be included but your family need to decide what works for your particular family.
Be mindful that Springtime presents great opportunities and it is so important to get fresh air/walks as well as, numeracy, literacy, relaxation and some social media/game time.
All these together can help to maintain good mental health. (Social distancing is very important whilst we are able to go out and about)
Set individual goals
Set individual goals and help each other to make the best use of their day. This will help to motivate us and helps us to feel that we are achieving and making progress e.g. these goals should/could be very routine eg take the dog for a 1 hour walk or wash the breakfast dishes before 10am.
Our minds will then be kept busy which will build our resilience and contribute to our sense of wellbeing.
Communication with significant adults is very important and if possible, try to make time for extended chat eg when you are out on a walk or working together helping to make the family meal. This will help youngsters to feel important and supported.
Idea of keeping a journal/blog where your child can write about their thoughts and feelings; Some youngsters find it easier to write it down rather than say it. It is also a great way of keeping up your youngster’s literacy.
Trouble-shooting issues are avoided when family members help make the plan, know the plan and know their role and follow through. Team leaders ie parent/carer, is the person who resolves issues, not your child who may fancy a bit of promotion!
Keeping in touch
School life is very structured which helps us to run smoothly and get lots of work done. There are of course times when additional strategies are required and our Pupil Support team is available as normal to support parents.
We would ask that you use the School Facebook page to message us which is a private communication.
Details needed are:
- your child’s name and Class,
- your name
- Choose from the one following words (Sibling issue, Wellbeing issue, Friendship issue, Following instructions) to indicate the issue.
We will then arrange for Pupil Support Teacher to contact you back.
We are here to support you and your youngsters.